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My Pregnancy wasn’t Planned -Osas Ajibade

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Screen goddess, Osas Ajibade recently had an interview with Genevieve Magazine. She talked about her husband, life as a married woman,her pregnancy and more. Read excerpts below:

The Pregnancy
On the process of hiding her bump: Hiding this pregnancy hasn’t been easy and it has been a challenge getting dressed every day to hide my bump but doing that has allowed me try different fashion choices I would previously have been nervous about. Take my AMVCA ball gown for instance. I would never have chosen a ball gown because I am more of a form fitting dress type of girl but Toju Foyeh (designer) made it work. It’s funny how even she didn’t notice any changes when she took my measurement because I have perfected the art of sucking in my belly. I pulled it off and not one person noticed I was hiding something. This has taught me that we can be fashion forward with pregnancy and I hope to be an inspiration for women going through body changes.
On why she kept it a secret: This is my first child and I do not want people’s opinions or judgment at this time. I have friends in the industry who were judged heavily when they were pregnant and it is not easy. I want to take back that power from the public and enjoy my pregnancy with all its challenges. Unfortunately I am aware that this is the industry we signed up for and people will always judge. It’s a very sensitive period for us especially with my older sister passing away from malaria when she was with child. My mum is really protective and she is on board with my keeping this pregnancy a secret. Losing a child is not easy on any parent so I understand why she is being protective. She even shared with me some Benin superstitions like putting a pin on my clothes to ward off evil and never telling anyone how far gone I am in my pregnancy and I am following her instructions to the letter. I was surprised when Aunty Betty confirmed that she also wore a pin on her dresses during her own pregnancies as well. We know the culture we are in. Let’s be real, there are bad belle people out there so to protect this blessing we are going to enjoy this moment privately.
On how she felt when she found out she was pregnant: This pregnancy wasn’t planned at all. As newlyweds we just wanted to enjoy our marriage before thinking about having kids but life happens. Interestingly, Gbenro figured it out before I did. I wasn’t feeling well and he told me he was going to get me some orange juice. On returning, he handed me a pregnancy test kit. I took the test and came downstairs to tell him the result. We stared at each other for what felt like forever and I said the words “We are pregnant”. We embraced for a long time and seeing my husband who is a true alpha African man in that state of emotion was such a beautiful moment. This pregnancy has brought out a new side of Gbenro who is usually very calm. Seeing him so excited when he rubs and listens to my belly is the most beautiful thing in the world. I now call him Papa G and he always smiles when I call him that.  In fact I want 10 kids but Gbenro says I am on my own.
On her sister’s death: Because of where we are [Nigeria] I would be lying if I said it hasn’t crossed my mind that revealing my pregnancy might jinx it. That’s why we are taking precautions to ensure we don’t go through the same events around the time my sister passed on. My sister’s death was an unfortunate situation but we will not let her death be in vain and are taking all the necessary precautions. This might be a cliché thing to say but I keep God first and it has always worked for me. It is never easy to not know all the answers but the number one answer is God and he would always lead the way. My mum always says prevention is better than cure and that’s one of the reasons I am leaving today for the United States to have my baby. I take precautions with everything, even with my career. I keep things to myself until they are birthed. When I was very young, I was on the phone to my friend telling her of my plans. My dad overheard me and said to me; “Hang up the phone. You don’t tell anyone your plans before they happen!” and that stuck with me. I had a lot of apprehensions initially about this pregnancy but I encourage myself by saying “You cannot have faith and worry at the same time. Pick one!” My husband feels the exact same way and he speaks so strongly of his faith. We would be silly to be oblivious to the evil in the world but God will not allow it come our way. I am grateful to Genevieve for keeping this private and announcing it in a special way.
The Husband
On falling in love with Gbenro: A woman always gets the sense that a man wants to hook up with her but I didn’t get that from him. It was actually me who asked him out the first time. Most of my friends and family were in the States so I was all by myself in Nigeria. I did not know anyone and we hung out a lot together. Gbenro’s friendship and loyalty drew me to him. He was such a cool person to hang out with, very sweet and he always looked out for me. From then on the friendship grew and it was such an organic relationship.I really am in love with Gbenro. He is so funny and I am always laughing when I am with him. I am concerned for our neighbours because it could be 2 o’ clock in the morning and I am bursting out laughing. He is an absolute comedian and people don’t see that side of him.
On how she knew he was the one: There were several factors that made me realise Gbenro was the man for me. They say you know a person best when you travel with them. After we started dating, he surprised me and took me to Obudu Cattle Ranch for our first Valentine’s Day as a couple. As a child of the diaspora I didn’t get a lot of exposure to Nigeria besides what the media pushed out to us. When I got to Obudu I exclaimed! “This is Nigeria? Nigeria is beautiful.” We don’t get to know in the United States that places like Obudu or Victoria and Banana Island exist and that’s why Gbenro was determined to show me places and expose me to a different world. We got to know each other outside of distractions and Valentine’s Day has become so important to us. Gbenro gives me the fairy-tale. It’s funny how I still get butterflies when I look at him. He is the love I have been searching for. If he were to step into this room right now, I would be like a little girl. He doesn’t compare to the other men I had dated in the past. My old boyfriends had different qualities but those qualities didn’t all come together. One was tall but a push over the other one was cute but not very smart. It needed to all come together in one man and Gbenro was that man. He has it all plus the things I didn’t even know I liked in man. If that’s not the man for me, then I don’t know who is. And Lord is he funny! I wish people knew that side of him. The ultimate deciding factor however was something he did which I unfortunately cannot share. (Here, she really broke down; she however shared it with us and we all teared up.) No one saw that coming. Because I have never liked dishonesty in a relationship and I think it is a faulty foundation to build anything on; I opened up completely to Gbenro about something that no one else knows about me and he loved me regardless. It made me realise that this is the man for me. Unfortunately I am not ready to share that with the world.
On meeting his parents: I met his parents the Valentines weekend he took me to Obudu. While I am aware that there is this negative belief about  your significant other’s parents, I have been so blessed. When I arrived at his house, his mother stepped out on the balcony called my name in such a loving way and welcomed me with open arms. I still have chills when I think about that moment. I couldn’t believe it was happening. His family is like the Huxtables on The Cosby show. They are such amazing people, so family oriented, supportive and real. They didn’t care where I came from. They just loved the fact that Gbenro was bringing a girl home for the first time. Up till now I can call my mother in law anytime I want to, she is there for me and she loves me. Look! She’s calling me right now. His family is amazing and his brothers and sister are beautiful and well-rounded individuals. They really take God as number one and it’s so admirable. My mother-in-law has a nickname for me. She calls me Sa-Sas and I love it. I love the way his mum treats his dad. They have been together for over 30 years and still act like high school lovers. Growing up with examples like that, it’s clear why Gbenro is who he is.
On rumours that Gbenro was with her for a green card: Being in the limelight, I hear different things and I wouldn’t be human if some of them didn’t get to me; especially the comments people made about how he is only with me because he wants a green card. That was very hurtful because people don’t understand the love we have for each other. Everybody likes a good life. Who no like better tin? If he is able to get a green card for being with me, then that is a blessing but for people to assume that that is the only reason he is with me is very hurtful. Gbenro has had different opportunities in his life and he could have made that [a green card] happen a long time ago. He always tells me that he had never envisioned himself being in love and in a relationship until he met me. He thought he might just end up having a baby mama. I didn’t ask him to marry me. He asked me to take this journey with him. People can talk all they want.
The Married Life
On life as Mrs. Ajibade: People say the first 6 months of marriage are the toughest and we have gone through our fair share of ups and downs. Culture was a big shock for me and being a wife is a different life altogether. I was a bachelorette doing whatever I wanted but now I am a caretaker and I have to care for my husband. I hear it’s normal to have a maid in Nigeria but I am not used to that. I upkeep my house myself even though my husband is open to employing someone for that. I do not trust anyone because I am scared. I never really liked cooking. I was the girl who would whip up a nice bowl of noodles for myself but I’m married now and Gbenro is used to eating a full-grown man’s meal.  Whether I am hungry or not there has to be food in my house. I had to learn how to cook what he likes. He loves Banga soup and I am grateful to his mum who taught me to do different dishes that her son loves. I’m not complaining because if he is constantly eating out that will never make me happy. I want him to look good and I want him to be happy when he comes home. It is not so much a challenge but it is a different life.
On the compromises: Gbenro and I decided to come to a compromise and do only one project/movie at a time. I love that he loves me but in the African culture for example seeing your woman kiss another man on screen is a big challenge. In coming to a compromise I asked myself, is kissing someone else much more important than my relationship with my husband? Will the kissing scene, if taken out detract from the story? If not, then I am happy to compromise. So we will do one project at a time and kissing is off the table right now but it might be on the table later. I also understand now that Gbenro needs his space. Whenever Gbenro needs his Gbenro time I give that to him that and whenever I need Osas time, Gbenro gives that to me. What I love is that we are learning to communicate better and work with each other day by day.
On divorce: It’s scary hearing about all these examples of celebrity breakups but there are good examples as well. Take Aunty Joke Silva and Uncle Olu Jacobs, Aunty Betty and uncle Soni. Ahn Ahn! Chai! These people have been married longer than I was even born. You also have examples like Omotola Jalade and her husband. There are still beautiful examples of what marriage can be and I have a husband whose goal is to have a successful marriage like his parents and that is an additional blessing.
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Chude Jideonwo Opens Up on Living With Tourette Syndrome: “My Body Feels Out of Control”

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He has sat across from presidents, celebrities, and survivors. He has coaxed the most vulnerable stories out of some of Nigeria’s most guarded names. And all along, quietly, privately, he was living with a story of his own — one that his own doctor had told him to keep hidden.

That story is now fully in the open.

Nigerian media entrepreneur and television host Chude Jideonwo has opened up about living with Tourette syndrome, describing the condition as one that can make the body feel “out of control” while also highlighting the stigma surrounding it in Africa. He disclosed this during a recent interview with BBC News Africa, where he reflected on his diagnosis and the challenges of speaking publicly about the neurological disorder.

The honesty with which he speaks about it is striking — and deliberate.

“When I was diagnosed, my doctor warned me not to talk about it in public, that people were going to judge me, especially in Africa, which made me sad. But it also shows why people are not speaking out about it,” he said.

That silence, he explains, has a cost. For years, Nigerians living with conditions like Tourette’s had nowhere to turn, no public figure to point to, no language to describe what they were experiencing as anything other than spiritual failure.

“If you watch Nigerian movies, the representations of people with Tourette’s are usually that they are demon-possessed or there’s something wrong with them,” Jideonwo said, placing a cultural mirror in front of a society that has long struggled to create space for neurological difference.

He was not spared that confusion himself. For years, Jideonwo struggled with unexplained twitching, vocal tics and compulsive behaviours that doctors repeatedly dismissed as being “in his head.” It was only after a neurologist carefully examined his symptoms that he received clarity. “What I had was Tourette’s Syndrome,” he says.

A friend had apparently told him it could be Tourette’s a while before his diagnosis, but though the symptoms fit, he didn’t take it seriously — it sounded too “foreign.”

The description he gives of living with the condition is visceral. “I began to notice Tourette’s syndrome in my late 20s consciously. Tourette syndrome is a neurological condition where it feels like your body misfires, where it feels like your body is out of your control in physical ways. The movement ticks, the vocal ticks. Corporeal, I had it very mild. So what it is that I repeat words constantly,” he explained.

Managing it in public, he says, requires an enormous amount of mental effort that most people around him never see. “Previously, I used to say the F word a lot, F, F, F, F, F, F. I was doing it compulsively. I manage it by just being under pressure. So if I’m in public and not speaking, it’s because I’m holding myself back. I’m using my entire mind to hold myself. The second way to cope is just to say it out loud. Once I say it out, people understand the embarrassment, and the awkwardness goes down,” he said.

“I remember telling the doctor that I don’t feel comfortable in my own body, and that I feel like my body is not my own,” Jideonwo revealed.

The BAFTA controversy earlier this year made the conversation even more urgent for him personally. Jideonwo linked the issue of public misunderstanding to the controversy at the BAFTA Film Awards 2026, where an activist, John Davidson, involuntarily shouted a racial slur during the ceremony — an incident later attributed to Tourette’s syndrome. “It broke my heart deeply to see what happened at the BAFTAs. It just showed me how much work still needs to be done. When someone nominated for a BAFTA award was judged so harshly, I just thought, ah God, we need a world with more empathy and where we suspend judgement until we know what people are really going through,” he said.

In his memoir How Depression Saved My Life, Jideonwo reflects on the relief that came with understanding what he was facing. The diagnosis helped him see that many of the behaviours he had battled privately — involuntary twitching, sudden words or sounds, obsessive repetitions and intense anxiety — were not character flaws but symptoms of a neurological condition. Understanding the condition helped reduce the emotional tension around it and allowed him to begin managing it through therapy, self-awareness and compassion for himself.

His message to anyone going through something similar — diagnosed or not, understood or dismissed — is characteristically direct. “My advice is: If you feel it, then it’s valid, you no dey craze and even if you dey craze, it’s still valid. If it doesn’t feel right then it probably isn’t right because you’re the one in your body.”

By sharing his story publicly, he hopes to challenge stigma around neurological and mental health conditions and remind people that difference should never be a cause for shame. “Normal is a loaded word,” he writes. “Instead of shaming those who are different, we should create a world where difference is accepted with the same ease as sameness.”

Chude Jideonwo has spent his career giving other people a platform to tell their most difficult truths. Now, at last, he has taken the seat himself. And Nigeria is listening.

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From ₦20k Monthly at Dangote’s Noodles Factory to Near Bankruptcy: Bella Shmurda Opens Up on His Toughest Days

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Before the hits, before the convoys, before the fame — there was a young man packing noodles on a factory floor for ₦20,000 a month, trying to survive Lagos. That man is Bella Shmurda, and he’s not hiding it.

The ‘Cash App’ singer has been making headlines for a deeply candid interview that has had Nigerians talking, not just because of where he came from, but because of what he nearly lost after he made it.

In a now-viral appearance on YouTuber Korty EO’s platform, Bella Shmurda opened up about a difficult period in his career when poor financial choices almost pushed him into bankruptcy, revealing that the excitement of sudden fame led him into a lifestyle of excessive spending and misplaced priorities.

But to understand how far he fell, you need to understand where he started. Before “Vision 2020” changed his life overnight, Bella was earning ₦20,000 monthly packing noodles at Dangote’s factory in Lagos — a back-breaking routine that ended in the most traumatic of ways. A colleague fell from the roof of the factory building into steaming industrial oil while cleaning. It was a Saturday morning, and the tragedy was instant. Bella quit on the spot and never returned.

That experience — raw, dangerous, and defining — lit a fire under him. Music became the only way out, and when it finally paid off, the floodgates opened in more ways than one.

“I used to have a lot of money but I rushed things. I wish I was wise then. I was just buying things extravagantly, things I eventually had no need for. At this point, as I am getting new money, I have to think about every move I want to take. I was accommodating up to ten of my friends back then and we were all receiving female visitors. I bought three cars at once just so that my friends would go out with me in convoy. I was reckless,” he admitted.

Let that sink in. Three cars at once — not for himself, but so his friends could move in convoy. That sentence alone tells you everything about the pressure young Nigerian artists face when the money comes. It’s not just about spending — it’s about proving to everyone around you that you made it, and dragging your whole circle with you.

Shmurda’s desire to live big and carry everyone along came at a steep price. He accommodated as many as ten friends, funded their outings, and purchased multiple cars at once just to maintain a certain image.

The near-collapse was a wake-up call he says he desperately needed. Today, Bella Shmurda appears more focused on sustainability and long-term planning, signalling a more mature approach to both his career and personal finances as he continues to evolve in the Nigerian music scene.

He’s also using his platform to make sure others don’t repeat his mistakes. Bella Shmurda urged his colleagues and fans to manage their money with wisdom to avoid bankruptcy and learning the hard way.

There’s something deeply refreshing about an artist who will sit in front of a camera and say “I was reckless” without dressing it up. No spin. No PR gloss. Just the truth. From ₦20k a month and factory grease on his hands, to millions — and almost back to zero — Bella Shmurda’s story is one of the most honest things you’ll hear from a Nigerian celebrity this year.

He survived the factory. He survived the broke days. He survived his own excesses. Now he’s just determined not to make the same mistakes twice.

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“I Ran Away From Home at 19 to Pursue Music” – CKay Opens Up

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Nigerian singer and songwriter, , has opened up about a bold decision he made at a young age, revealing that he left home at 19 to fully pursue his passion for music.

The “Love Nwantiti” crooner shared this during a recent conversation, where he reflected on his early struggles and determination to succeed in the music industry.

According to CKay, the move was not an easy one, but it was necessary for him to focus on building his career and finding his path in music. He explained that the decision came from a deep belief in his talent and a strong desire to make something meaningful out of his life.

The singer also spoke about the challenges he faced during that period, including uncertainty and the pressure of chasing success without a guaranteed outcome. However, he remained committed to his craft, which eventually paid off.

Today, CKay is recognized as one of Nigeria’s successful music exports, with his sound gaining global attention and his songs topping charts across different countries.

His story has since inspired many young Nigerians, showing that taking risks and staying dedicated to one’s passion can lead to great achievements.

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